It's our anniversary
In my younger days I was a huge R-n-B fan. I can't say I listen to R-n-B much these days, but I can faintly remember the lyrics to one of my old favorites by Toni, tony, tone "It's our anniversary".
"Tommorrow will come and girl I can't wait...it's our anniversary"
Well yesterday my wife (Andrea) and I shared our 12th anniversary. It is hard to believe we've been married 12 years, I can still remember getting married just like it was yesterday.
My wife and I went out to dinner last night just the two of us. I spared no expense and took her to Applebee's with a 30$ gift card I got for Christmas. Afterwards we went to Meijer's and picked up a couple groceries for the upcoming week. In the spirit of anniversary, I even went into Meijer's with her instead of waiting in the car. After Meijer's we ran by Wendy's and picked up some Vanilla frosties for us and the kids (who were patiently waiting at home). While we were out, I asked Andrea a very tricky question. I asked her, "What's been the best thing in our marriage?"
It didn't take her long to answer (thank God, or I would have been pretty bummed). She said, "Being known by someone". I had to agree and I can completely relate.
When you realize someone knows you, really knows you, it takes away a lot of fear and anxiety in your relationship. You don't have to worry as much about being misunderstood in what you do or say. You don't have to worry as much about impressing the other person by trying to be someone or something you're not. You can be yourself and that's wonderful, because the other person loves you for being you.
Now don't get me wrong, that doesn't give someone the excuse to be lazy and take the other person for granted and no longer work at the relationship, I think it's just the opposite. When you realize your loved and known, you want to work hard, you want to do things and say things that keeps that relationship alive and well.
For some people it's fancy dinners, candlelight evenings for two, a bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates, etc... And I do get those things occasionally, ok probably not enough. But for Andrea and I it's the little things that matter like cleaning off the table after dinner, emptying the dishwasher, throwing my clothes in the hamper, putting my clothes away, going on power walks through the neighborhood together, buying a card on special occasions and quiet dinners anywhere without the kids.
I've got an awesome wife I know. I'm so lucky we found each other when we did. I'm so glad we know and love each other the way we do. I'm so thankful she loves me and accepts me as I am. The first 12 years have come and gone so fast, they have been great and I expect nothing less from the years to come.
"Tommorrow will come and girl I can't wait...it's our anniversary"
"Tommorrow will come and girl I can't wait...it's our anniversary"
Well yesterday my wife (Andrea) and I shared our 12th anniversary. It is hard to believe we've been married 12 years, I can still remember getting married just like it was yesterday.
My wife and I went out to dinner last night just the two of us. I spared no expense and took her to Applebee's with a 30$ gift card I got for Christmas. Afterwards we went to Meijer's and picked up a couple groceries for the upcoming week. In the spirit of anniversary, I even went into Meijer's with her instead of waiting in the car. After Meijer's we ran by Wendy's and picked up some Vanilla frosties for us and the kids (who were patiently waiting at home). While we were out, I asked Andrea a very tricky question. I asked her, "What's been the best thing in our marriage?"
It didn't take her long to answer (thank God, or I would have been pretty bummed). She said, "Being known by someone". I had to agree and I can completely relate.
When you realize someone knows you, really knows you, it takes away a lot of fear and anxiety in your relationship. You don't have to worry as much about being misunderstood in what you do or say. You don't have to worry as much about impressing the other person by trying to be someone or something you're not. You can be yourself and that's wonderful, because the other person loves you for being you.
Now don't get me wrong, that doesn't give someone the excuse to be lazy and take the other person for granted and no longer work at the relationship, I think it's just the opposite. When you realize your loved and known, you want to work hard, you want to do things and say things that keeps that relationship alive and well.
For some people it's fancy dinners, candlelight evenings for two, a bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates, etc... And I do get those things occasionally, ok probably not enough. But for Andrea and I it's the little things that matter like cleaning off the table after dinner, emptying the dishwasher, throwing my clothes in the hamper, putting my clothes away, going on power walks through the neighborhood together, buying a card on special occasions and quiet dinners anywhere without the kids.
I've got an awesome wife I know. I'm so lucky we found each other when we did. I'm so glad we know and love each other the way we do. I'm so thankful she loves me and accepts me as I am. The first 12 years have come and gone so fast, they have been great and I expect nothing less from the years to come.
"Tommorrow will come and girl I can't wait...it's our anniversary"
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Labels: Anniversary, Marriage, Relationsip
posted by Rich @ 10:24 AM
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1 Comments:
Thank you honey for loving me and accepting me for who I am (which I know is quite neurotic and difficult at times). That line from an old song comes to mind, "When God made you he must have been thinking about me." I can't wait to get to know you more and make thousands of amazing memories with you.
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